Men are From Mars Women are From Venus

Men are From Mars Women are From Venus

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Relationship Enrichment Seminar What I said. It isn't the actual final outcome that the true about Women. You check this out article for information on what you need to know is Women. Women Dr. John Gray author of the best wholesaler "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus" Dr. Gray mentioned as a preamble to his talk that when his book 'Men are from Mars, Women from Venus' had come out he was questioned either one can make generalizations in terms of the behaviour of men and women. The only response he gave was either they resonated with what was written in the book and 100% of the time they replied 'Yes'. 1. The differences between Men and Women are universal. Women all over the world complain that "He doesn't understand". "He doesn't listen". "Only time he touches me is when he wants sex". And men all over the world complain that "She doesn't want to have enough of sex." (Unless the woman is colse to 37 years. At this magical age women want more of sex than ever before.) 2. Women like affection from men much more than sex. They want to be hugged. John learnt to hug his wife. 3. Men like to be logical. Women like to share and talk even if there is no point in their sharing and talking. Men need to have an objective. They need to see the point in doing something. They can't share for the sake of sharing. 4. Men tend to do one thing at a time. Women do many things at a time. Men have a tunnel vision. 95% of their attentiveness is focused on just one thing and 5% on checking of the environment. Women are just the opposite. They are continuously taking in everything that there is in the environment either it is useful or not. 5. John narrated the incident of his wife asking him to get some milk while arrival home from work. He forgets. She considerately puts it down to his thinking of work. She asks him again. Again he forgets. She takes it personally. It's not that the milk was forgotten but that she was forgotten. Women behave in this manner. 6. Men have their own caves on which the sign states "Please do not disturb." Men like to recession into their own world where they feel they are in control. Women also have caves but the sign on their caves is "I need to talk". When a man asks a woman what's wrong and she says "Nothing" it assuredly means "Nothing, unless you care to listen and give me an opportunity to talk." 7. 90% of women go into therapy because they want to be listened to. They want to be asked questions. They want to feel special. Men hate to be questioned. If men want to talk they'll talk. If they don't want to talk they won't. When a man is locked in his cave, the woman thinks that something is wrong with him and goes in and asks questions. This is a wrong move for the woman to make. Men hate to be interrogated. 8. When a woman touches a man she may want to be cuddled. But for a man in any place he is touched leads to Rome and he thinks therefore that it has to lead to sex. 9. Men want to forget the problems of the day. Women want to remember. A man will say "Forget it, it's no big deal." For a woman she will not rest till the question is talked about. Her response to the man, who wants to just forget about it and not make a big deal out of it, will be "How can you be so insensitive." 10. Men should never tell a woman how she should feel. In fact if she is unhappy, the man needs to be unhappy with her for a while instead of offering advice. 11. If the man is at a loss for saying anything when the woman is feeling bad then instead of offering advice he could build her up a bit by saying "I know how much you work during the day to make the kids and myself feel happy. It must be very exhausting." Her unconscious response would be "He understands." The woman craves for understanding. 12. Women make noises to get attention. Men make noises to signal "Please leave me alone." 13. To cope with stress, sometimes, women while speaking tend to speak in long sentences and then pause. Men think that the pause is a signal for saying something. Wrong. For the woman the pause is just a semi-colon. Men need to restrain themselves in giving advice. 14. When a woman is upset and a man tries to give a explication 99% of the time her response will be "Yes....but". When she is relaxed then give the solution. After she has been given the opportunity to talk about it. 15. If a man tries to walk in a woman's shoes, she will be more willing to understand his point of view. Men tend to expect women to agree with their point of view because they feel it is obviously the best point of view. 16. Men are efficiency oriented. Must do it the easiest and fastest way. Women on the other hand feel that taking the shortest path between 2 points is boring. Women like variation. This is especially true in the bedroom. Men go by the same recipe every time while women want variation. Men like uniforms and the same uniform. Men look good in a tuxedo or a suit and that's it. Every time the same tuxedo or suit. Women like to convert their dress; sometimes thrice or even more times in a day. 17. When John's book 'Men are from Mars, Women from Venus' was on the bestseller list for 6 years in a row, John realized how narrowly focused in life he had become. He only gloated about his book being no. 1 on the bestseller list. John was missing the itsybitsy things of life where his wife and children were concerned. Women are able to see the itsybitsy things in life and be happy. 18. The more narrow the focus of a man the more stressed he is bound to get. He can't notice anything else other than what he is focusing on at that moment. Women deal with lots of problems at the same time and the way they cope is to talk about them. 19. Men use their brain sequentially viz. One part at a time. Where women are involved it is regularly the whole brain at once. 20. Women lower stress through talking and sharing. The collectiveness and togetherness which they share is part of their feminity. Men lower their stress by being alone. Women's attitude is that if we can't do anything about it then let's talk about it and suffer together. Men's focus is on solving the problem. And if they can't solve the question then they make the question disappear by forgetting about it. 21. Men all the time want to be right. 22. Women, unknowingly sabotage their success. They put themselves down because they want support. Women bond by putting themselves down. For example if one is late for a single function in the office, the woman will say what an imbecile she is by not catching the right train or missing the connection because of some slow-witted mistake she made and so on. And other women who are also late will do the same. 23. Or if a woman is having a question with the computer, she will call the so called specialist from the computer agency and tell him that she doesn't know anything about computers and that she is very happy that he has come to her saving and thereby push the guy way up there. But when he suggests a explication which she tends to disagree with, she doesn't know how to tell him because if she does it, it makes him come crashing down and he reacts by saying that she has wasted his time. In this case one needs to resort to face saving devices like 'whatever you have suggested will I am sure help me to shape it out (even if you see no utility in the suggestion). 24. As women more and more enter into the workplace their need to being listened to and understood is not being met. The workplace is efficiency oriented. They are becoming more and more isolated. They have to raise their children alone. Unseen and unheard. And this is causing them to go more and more into depression. The man focusses on work no matter what the problems are that are being experienced at home. 25. Man is efficiency oriented. He needs to feel needed. He needs problems to be solved. If there are no job opportunities or there is no attempt called for to do something then the man feels depressed. 26. When women feel nurtured they feel happy. They are happy with the small things of life. Man likes to quantum himself against the goal he has set for himself. Men behave like squirrels. They focus on one thing, dash towards it and once they reach there then they turn their focus on someone else thing and make a dash there and so on and so forth. 27. Men see the news on Tv especially after arrival home, because the problems they hear about and see make their problems seem that much smaller. 28. John's soul sings when he teaches. Need to find one's path and go along it. The fact that one feels fear is because it is one's path. If it was not one's path then one would not be so worried about either one made an impact or not. 29. The truth is I deserve to be the way I am. I need not be bothered to be perfect in order to be loved. Once one lives in an atmosphere of perfect trust the more authentic one becomes, and the more authentic one becomes the more irresistible one becomes. The closer we are to who we truly are the more citizen will love us. There will all the time be citizen who do not love us. 30. Forgiveness is the key. If man hurts then one needn't hurt back. As Gandhi said, An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind. 31. Women give more. Men want to get more. 32. Women want flowers to be purchased by men. And they should be cut- flowers. So that the flowers die and therefore the men have to go out and purchase them again and again. They do not want the romance to go out of the relationship. Men on the other hand feel that if they have done it once there is no necessity to do it again and again. But women want things and messages to be repeated again and again. 33. Women sometimes give hints viz. On Sunday they will mention that they are getting their hair cut on Thursday. This is to be taken as a warning signal. The hair cut must be noticed. If a woman has to ask how she looks after she has had a hair cut then there is no value settled on the man's comment. It has to be noticed without being asked. Women put in much more attempt in looking good. Men put in more attempt in their work. 34. Man wants to be appreciated. Woman wants to be listened to and noticed. Men stress more on what they do while women stress more on their being. 35. Men think that by being flexible they are Mr. Agreeable and that is appreciated by women. assuredly speaking women want men to take charge and suggest something which they agree on. Mr. Agreeable is boring. The ideal metaphor is to have a man with a plan and a woman with a smile. 36. Sometimes the woman feels that she does everything according to what the man wants. At this point it is considerable for the woman to say "I'll do it this time your way but next time we'll do what I want." 37. Women are all the time holding score in a connection viz. When a woman does anything for a man she all the time gives herself a point. Men keep score in business. Men need to keep score in a connection too. They need to do something for the woman so that they too score points from the woman's point of view. 38. At work the man's perspective is not to unnecessarily interfere. A man feels that if he doesn't ask then he is giving total free time to the woman. But a woman who is a subordinate wants to be asked about her work because silence is taken to mean 'non-involvement'. 39. Women like the small stuff. Chit-Chat. Occasionally ask some personal questions. The magic words are 'What else?' 40. To free a man a woman needs to say 'You don't need to say or do anything and you don't need to feel bad.' 41. Listening creates healing. 42. Women by nature give. But when they find that they are not getting anything in return they need to give to themselves. Men have no question in giving to themselves. Men don't give enough to others. 43. Men prefer women managers while they learn the job. After studying the job they prefer a male manager. 44. Men sprint faster. Women win the long distance. 45. In men testosterone lowers stress. In women oxytocin lowers stress. Affection, considerateness, being noticed is what produces the oxytocin in women. Therefore men need to learn new skills to yield oxytocin in women. Foreplay is more important for a woman than a man. A woman needs 20-30 minutes of stimulation. A man needs just 2-3 minutes. 46. Women want sensitive men but the danger is that if men become too sensitive then women don't like it. They want men to be considerate but not to be too sensitive just like them. 47. Don't try to fix or convert your partner. 48. When husband and wife are firm partners then there needs to be clear rules. There needs to be a clear demarcated time when no firm is talked about. 49. Duty is important but being authentic is more important. 50. Women can be compared metaphorically to the moon. When the moon is full, women crave for sex. When it is half-full, a woman can have it not have it, it does not matter, and when it is a new moon she couldn't care less. 51. There are separate types of sex viz. Healthy, home cooked sex, Ferrari, junk food sex, and glutton sex. Once a month one could have glutton sex which means bringing in the romance by going out for a supper and arrival home to an atmosphere which gradually climaxes. Whenever he wants sex, and it is a quickie then give it to him. in case,granted on other occasions there is good, regular homemade sex. In order to arrive at a meaningful understanding one could have 3 candles signifying the 3 types of sex. either partner finds it very difficult to know the real mood of the other. Depending on which candle is lit and by whom one can behave accordingly. The candle becomes the sign of the mood. I hope you get new knowledge about Women. Where you can offer use in your everyday life. And just remember, your reaction is passed about Women. Read more.. Men are From Mars Women are From Venus.